The F-word Reply

By Krista Dejulio – Co-Editor-in-Chief

When I think of the current state of the government I think of one of my favorite lines from Chance the Rapper’s song “Blessings” that goes “Don’t believe in kings, believe in the kingdom.” I believe in the kingdom. My kingdom. In January, I attended the Women’s March in Boston where more than 100,000 of my closest friends and I gathered to peacefully assemble and march. Creative and unique signs of all shapes and sizes adorned the hands of both women and men, girls and boys, grandmas and grandpas with words on why they march. This past International Women’s Day in early March, two of my friends unified Lasell to be part of A Day Without a Woman, a day to “recognize[e] the enormous value that women of all backgrounds add to our socioeconomic system.” 

Being a feminist isn’t easy. There’s no way I could ever change someone’s mind and there’s no good way to explain everything. While everyone is entitled to their own opinion…some opinions are wrong. Not wrong, but not progressive. Feminism is defined by Merriam-Webster as “the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.” Not a single word on how, as a woman, I want to be better and more advanced than men. Yes I would like a man to hold a door open for me if I have my hands full, but that doesn’t mean I’m not a feminist. There’s a huge stigma against identifying yourself as a feminist, but I’m so glad my friends and I can do so when it is needed most in the world. 

I once dated a guy who told me he was a feminist. It didn’t impress me because I have always thought everyone should be a feminist. Barack Obama is a feminist so why shouldn’t you too?! I have a female friend who thought it was weird my dad does the grocery shopping – and has for as long as I can remember. Another boy I knew used International Women’s Day as an excuse to ask me out for a drink and was surprised when I declined. This is why I need feminism. Too many people out there, including women, think feminism means I hate men and burn bras. 

Feminism is inclusive and I expect you to care about human rights. This is known as intersectional feminism and excludes no one. It’s more than equal pay and breaking the glass ceiling. Feminists aren’t just concerned about what’s happening in the United States. Groups raise awareness of child bride epidemics, the wrongfulness of female genital mutilation, Black Lives Matter, the lives of LGBTQ, helping women in developing countries, social rights, sex trafficking that could happen both here at home and across the globe. It’s not just about women anymore. I have lived in a world where I thought my reproductive rights were inalienable but unfortunately that’s not the case anymore. I don’t want everyday sexism to be a social norm. I want to create a better world for myself, my friends and the future. 

I need feminism because my dates think they need to tell me they believe in my rights when I already assumed they did. I need feminism because other men think it doesn’t involve them. I need feminism because society thinks it’s weird my dad does chores around the house. I need feminism to end rape culture, to raise awareness of the horrors overseas, to make the world safe for my friends of color and my friends of LGBTQ. I need feminism because our president thinks it’s acceptable to grab women by the pussy. I need feminism because I need people to know it’s not about women being better than men, but about creating equal rights for all minorities, creating equal rights that everyone should have when they are born. Everyone needs feminism.

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